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HOW TO HANDLE COMPETITIVE FEMALE FRIENDS

12/25/2021

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THOUGHTS ON FRENEMIES & COMPETITION

Have you ever experienced having power struggles with fellow women in friendships? Did issues of jealousy and envy became one of the reasons why the friendship failed? When bitterness overcomes platonic love, things can get bleak. Betrayal is heart-shattering and can make you have trust issues.

If you have experienced this theme in your friendships, I feel you. Natally, I got Pluto (the planet of power and transformation) conjunct Lilith (raw feminine energy) effects.... in the 11th House (of friendships and social life). Those who understand the language of astrology got this.

In this article, I will be coming from the space of love and solutions. Not of hatred and condescension.
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I have had my share of friendships that went awry because of betrayal. Some women whom I thought were my friends ended up bashing me and trash talking behind my back. Unnecessary drama of being the center of gossips and having my posts being screenshotted then laughed at were quite common.

In this case, if I will dwell on the victim-mentality, nothing will be solved anyway. So I chose to heal myself and trust that they will get their own karma. 

I won't say that I was perfect and didn't do anything wrong. When your intentions are good, the truth will still come out anyway.

Remember, we mirror each other in one form of another. And until you realize this, the toxic cycle will continue on and on.

Lesson for me is to accept this, that there will always be people who won't like me, and rise above it through discernment. Using my intuition to decipher whom I can trust.... or not.
When you do, you'll go full circle.
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Stumbled upon this screenshot online...
Now here is an unpopular opinion, but I will say it anyway...

You cannot control others but you can manage yourself. The art of detachment is about accepting which things you just need to surrender and not worry about anymore.

When a girl "friend" is being competetive unnecessarily, establish healthy boundaries. You may communicate properly and discuss what is going on. But if all you get is dishonesty, do not play the game they're playing. Detach.

Ask "what is the lesson behind this experience?"

Identify what it is within you that is triggered by them. Usually what triggers them could also be what triggers you. There is a mirror there, you see.

If you are attracting overly competetive people, perhaps you are also very competetive but you haven't admitted it yet? If you are attracting envious people, perhaps you also have a jealousy shadow within you that you haven't healed yet.

Whatever is triggering you, find that.

Every negative experience has a chance to be healed through therapy and also... Inner Work. 

It ain't easy, but necessary.

-KrIsh Rai
Astral Crystals
12.26.21
1:26am
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    KrishEELA Rai

    Founder of Astral Crystals.

    Reiki Master-Teacher, Angelic Healer, Seraphim Blueprint Practitioner, Tarot Consultant, Astrologer, Akashic Soul Reader-Teacher, Spiritual Advisor

    Beauty, love, feminism, and empowerment - these are the four ingredients that "Bonita Feminista" is made of.

    A creature unlike any other - she is the kind of woman who aspires to achieve spiritual enlightenment and awakening, to learn more about the power of quantum healing in this Universe, and to take those immense positive energy in spreading love and beauty to humankind. 💖

    I enjoy writing about my interests in spirituality, mysticism and the occult, skin care & makeup reviews, fashion tips, and mommy life.

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