"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces." - Matthew 7:6
This verse talks about knowing the worth of the gifts that you are capable of giving (material, services, knowledge, time and effort) and discerning who are the people worthy of receiving it. Do not waste good things on people who will not appreciate them.
Jesus appears to be warning his disciples to preach only before receptive audiences.
One of my mentors said, "do NOT sell meat to vegetarians". Meaning, we should also be wise on whom should we share our knowledge and wisdom to, because again, not everyone will know how to appreciate.
Even in our Reiki practice, part of the precept is we should only heal people if there is permission and an energy exchange. That way, the energy will keep on flowing smoothly and there will be no unpaid karmic debt.
I will share the lesson that I have learned from this. In my personal experience, when I was only starting out many years ago, some people messaged me and asked me to give them natal chart astrology reading for free, yes, walang bayad. I gave it for free because back then, I didn't know the value of the service that I was giving. I spent blood, sweat and sleepless nights in learning all that I knew then. I thought I was not good enough, so maybe giving free readings was OK. Mind you, those were not short readings but FULL readings that lasted 2 hours each.
Many months later that happened, the only energy exchange that I asked from these people was, "can you leave a feedback in my fan page as an exchange for the free reading that I gave you before?"
Let us say that only 3 out of 20 are the only ones who gave me the energy exchange that I asked for. Some of them said, "okay" but never delivered, others said, "try ko" and they never did. Some of them were like, "I'll give you a gift in exchange" then they never came. The worst so far was of them, whom I gave a free natal chart reading for her birthday 2 yeas ago even had the gall to say "your rates now are so expensive wala bang cheaper?"
For the others, I have learned to detach and realize that if these people are ungrateful, I shouldn't waste time with them. For the others who had bad attitude, I called them out. You see, when we do not value ourselves the proper way, we can't expect others to value us.
Those are lessons that I have learned and as they say from bad experiences and I am grateful for it. Because of that, I have learned about setting HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
Even the master Dr. Mikao Usui learned this same lesson. He healed a beggar who was a leper, gave him a chance to have a new life and be able to work again in the city. How did the said beggar pay his gift back? By going back to the slums and begging again. He said he did it because begging was easier than working hard and living an honorable life. Sigh...
Take note, there is nothing wrong with giving to charities and helping the people who are in need (like the poor children who have terrible sickness who have nothing to give, for example). But if the person DEMANDING you for freebies and low balling you are not beggars and have the capability to pay you the right amount, then be wise. Will they appreciate you or not?
Saying "thank you" is important. It makes the helper feel appreciated and in return, they feel inspired to help you out more. Blessings also come more often to those who know how to appreciate.
But if after asking for help from someone, and afterwards you won't even say a simple "thanks" it gives off an energy of ungratefulness, which results to less blessings coming your way.
Just think of those people who were given free shelter and food, they never said thanks and even complains about blessings not being enough. With ungratefulness, blessings would go away anyway.
- Krish Rai