THOUGHTS ON FRENEMIES & COMPETITION
Have you ever experienced having power struggles with fellow women in friendships? Did issues of jealousy and envy became one of the reasons why the friendship failed? When bitterness overcomes platonic love, things can get bleak. Betrayal is heart-shattering and can make you have trust issues.
If you have experienced this theme in your friendships, I feel you. Natally, I got Pluto (the planet of power and transformation) conjunct Lilith (raw feminine energy) effects.... in the 11th House (of friendships and social life). Those who understand the language of astrology got this.
In this article, I will be coming from the space of love and solutions. Not of hatred and condescension.
I have had my share of friendships that went awry because of betrayal. Some women whom I thought were my friends ended up bashing me and trash talking behind my back. Unnecessary drama of being the center of gossips and having my posts being screenshotted then laughed at were quite common.
In this case, if I will dwell on the victim-mentality, nothing will be solved anyway. So I chose to heal myself and trust that they will get their own karma.
I won't say that I was perfect and didn't do anything wrong. When your intentions are good, the truth will still come out anyway.
Remember, we mirror each other in one form of another. And until you realize this, the toxic cycle will continue on and on.
Lesson for me is to accept this, that there will always be people who won't like me, and rise above it through discernment. Using my intuition to decipher whom I can trust.... or not.
When you do, you'll go full circle.
Now here is an unpopular opinion, but I will say it anyway...
You cannot control others but you can manage yourself. The art of detachment is about accepting which things you just need to surrender and not worry about anymore.
When a girl "friend" is being competetive unnecessarily, establish healthy boundaries. You may communicate properly and discuss what is going on. But if all you get is dishonesty, do not play the game they're playing. Detach.
Ask "what is the lesson behind this experience?"
Identify what it is within you that is triggered by them. Usually what triggers them could also be what triggers you. There is a mirror there, you see.
If you are attracting overly competetive people, perhaps you are also very competetive but you haven't admitted it yet? If you are attracting envious people, perhaps you also have a jealousy shadow within you that you haven't healed yet.
Whatever is triggering you, find that.
Every negative experience has a chance to be healed through therapy and also... Inner Work.
It ain't easy, but necessary.
Water represents our emotions while the cup or chalice symbolizes our love bank.
In life, we will experience a cycle of highs and lows, with our sense of self-love going up or down. It is normal. We learn the most important lessons during the hardest times. Sometimes we cannot really help how we are going to feel in a day because external factors vary.
What we gotta remember is that, no matter what emotion we are feeling, it is okay to acknowledge it and ask ourselves what is it that is triggering us. Why am I feeling sad right now? Why am I getting angry of what s/he said? What wounds were triggered because of this event?
It is OK not to be ok, to be angry or sad, we cannot be "positive" all the time. We are only human.
With emotional awareness and mindfulness, we will not be a slave to our emotions and it will not consume us. Instead, we can use them as catalyst to turn things around for the better, to get to know ourselves well, to speak up against bullying, and even to achieve justice that we seek.
When we allow ourselves to feel our emotions, it is easier to fill our cup with goodness, empty it out when we get contaminated with bitterness, and refill it again with love and happiness. And the cycle goes on and on.
SELF-LOVE IS KEY TO LIFE.
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
Love makes the world go round, but self-love is where it starts!
It is important in all aspects of life yet it is especially important to your relationship. The first stop on the road to romance is you. It is honoring and loving oneself that opens the door for another to truly do the same.
- Krisheela Rai
Be aware of your connection to the universe. Live with the awareness that everything you are and everything you do directly or indirectly affects everything and everyone around you.
Small or big, what you choose to do can alter the course or destiny of living or non-living things that come your way.
As you realize this, you will take more responsibility for your actions and influence, and will never take spiritual things lightly.
When your energy is vibrating on a higher frequency, your "light" acts as a "mirror" that reflects others' "energies" - which includes their own light... and shadows.
When their shadows are triggered upon interacting with you, that is when they project their insecurities or hatred from themselves towards you.
In that case, there is nothing that you can do for them, you can't control how others would react, but you can choose to detach, shield, and put on healthy boundaries. It isn't your job to heal everybody - it is every person's responsibility to fix themselves. Sometimes you can't meddle because they gotta learn their own lessons.
- Krisheela Rai
MY EXPERIENCE ON PLUTO AND POWER PLAYS
In Astrology, Pluto is known as "The Shadow Planet" that represents Death & Rebirth, Changes and Transformation. It is ruled by Scorpio, and it rules the 8th house in the Natal Chart.
Pluto unveils the hidden: secrets, sex and intimacy, shared resources, power, slow changes, and endings. Pluto is about self-empowerment and evolution. Pluto's energy will put you to your breaking point because you can sustain it.
People with strongly-aspected Plutonian energies natally may have really intense experiences such as power struggles happening in the house where it sits in their astrological birth chart. Other people may try to overpower the native so the manipulator will benefit from their strengths.
In this case, the Plutonian native will have to learn to start standing up for themselves and speaking up when their healthy boundaries are being disrespected.
It's either these circumstances break them or make them.
But what's nice about Pluto is that it gives you POWER to change and transform, to learn and unlearn, to experience ego death and rise from the ashes like the phoenix you are.
When someone has a strong Plutonian energy in their birth chart, power plays will always be present in their lives every now and then. That's just the way it is.
If you happen to be one, you can either learn how to rise above this experience and come out stronger than ever OR you can be chaotic.
One thing is for sure, you can never truly own a PLUTONIAN. They will help you, empower you, and support you when you need them. Betray them and God knows what they will do. They will never be anyone else's pawn who will follow everything other people say.
Plutonians' minds are strong and spirits resilient.
- Krish Rai
Dec 18, 2021
SAGITTARIUS NEW MOON
SOLAR ECLIPSE - CHANNELED MESSAGE
Reminder Dearest Ones,
You are on Earth, ground yourself.
Your assignment is here, BE PRESENT!!!
Who you are right now, what you do on a daily basis,
basically how you live your life, and fulfill your purpose is what is most important.
Don't lose yourself and be obsessed about who you were in a past life, or which star system you came from, or whoever's fractal you got there. Whether you were one of the royals or a poor man, or a powerful man or a commoner, or whatever title you had in a past life, is NOT the main point of your life right now.
Don't get confused on those!
Learning about your Soul Origin is great for it gives you a clue on what your Earthly task should be, you realize your potentials again, you heal what needs to be healed...
And because of that, you once again become aligned with the Divine...
But DO NOT use that for superiority complex!
If the crown chakra is overactive to the point that you use spirituality as an escapism,
or worse, you feel that being "more spiritual" makes you better than other people,
you won't be able to do your mission properly here on Earth!
Before you focus on ascension,
you gotta master descension...
Or else you'll get your head lost in the clouds.
You're a Starseed?
Now master grounding!
Be present in Earth's reality.
With tough love,
Dec 5, 2020
Founder of Astral Crystals.